What’s the harm in a little gossip?
It may not seem like a big deal. But Proverbs 18:8 says, “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.” From there, they often lead us into all kinds of sin. For instance, if we repeat something that isn’t true, whether we realize it or not, we’re guilty of spreading lies and slander.
Freely discussing another’s faults and failures often produces in us a sense of superiority and a smug self-righteousness. The kind of pride that goes before a fall. When we offer our opinion on someone else’s attitude or behavior or motives, we’re passing judgment on them – something Jesus forbid us to do. (Matthew 7:1-5)
If what we’ve heard or said about another person causes us (and others) to despise them or mistreat them, God will hold us responsible for the pain and suffering our words have caused.
We’ve got to stop and ask ourselves: Is what we’re about to say true? Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it necessary – either to have the conversation at all, or to include all of the details? Would we be embarrassed if the person we’re speaking about somehow overheard what we were saying? Would they?
Ephesians 4:28 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
If what we’re about to say doesn’t meet that standard, then we need to keep it to ourselves!