Let God Do the Talking

Do you know the definition of “backbiting”?

Hi I’m Christin Ditchfield and this is Take It To Heart!

I once thought it meant saying cruel, “biting” things behind someone’s back. But that’s “backstabbing.” Backbiting is biting someone back – after they’ve bitten you. It’s retaliatory. It’s getting revenge. And it’s not acceptable for those of us who love Jesus. First Peter 2:23 says, “To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in His steps. ‘He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in His mouth.’ When they hurled their insults at Him, He did not retaliate; when He suffered, He made no threats. Instead, He entrusted Himself to Him who judges justly.”

I think this has to be one of the most difficult things God asks us to do: To trust Him to deal with those who falsely accuse us or unfairly attack us – and not allow ourselves to be drawn into a war of words. It goes against everything our flesh is made of, to turn the other cheek and go on about our Father’s business, regardless of what’s being said behind our backs. It requires enormous discipline and self-control, not to mention grace and faith. There are times when we must speak up on behalf of others – to protect the innocent, defend the helpless, and rescue the oppressed. But when it comes to settling scores, that’s God’s responsibility.

Romans 12:19 says, “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.” We can be sure that whether or not we get to see it happen, justice will be served. Refusing to retaliate not only protects us from falling into sin (and thus receiving God’s discipline) ourselves. It serves as a testimony to those around us. And sometimes it leads to reconciliation and restoration, once conviction and repentance have taken place. In any case – and every case – as believers, our goal is always to speak words that reflect the light of Christ, not words that increase the darkness. Trust God to speak up for you and through you and to you today.